| On the previous page we have outlined all the options available to you. You will have looked and thought through these, and as we wrote the options can seem quite ‘fact based’, we need to bear in mind we have physical, mental and emotional parts to us. It is important to explore how any decision will affect us holistically. This is what these pages will seek to help you do. We will be taking each option and looking at how our decision with any one will affect us, physically, mentally and emotionally. It will help if you have a pen and paper to work through this process. You can use the diagram below as a guide.
(1) Keeping the baby and parenting
It can start to help if you can ask yourself, what needs to be in place for me to keep the baby and parent?
There is a diagram that you can use to explore all the options available to you but will also help you look at yourself mentally, physically and emotionally. The first circle is all about practical issues.
These can be called the circumstances.
Circumstances can make an unplanned pregnancy hard to face. That can be because we are afraid of what may happen. Sometimes it can be because we are afraid of losing things that are important to us, not just practical things like time and money, but things like freedom, peace of mind and relationships.
You may be afraid that you won’t cope with having a baby, particularly if it means having a larger family to care for. Your partner or husband may feel unsure about the situation too. Perhaps you feel your marriage or relationship wouldn’t take the strain of a new baby. Or you may feel you are too young or have no support. It is also hard not to be too concerned with what others may think.
All of these things can impact on our mind and cause us to be overwhelmed by thoughts, it can be hard to find the space to sit and think these things through.
What thoughts are in your mind? What are the circumstances? What are your fears? What emotions are there for you and your partner?
So in identifying the circumstances you will have found out how these circumstances are impacting on your mind. The next circle speaks about emotions. All decisions affect us in all three areas of our lives, what are your feelings (emotions) saying to you about keeping the baby and parenting?
By looking at all three areas you will be looking at the decision you make being based on how you as a whole person feels.
(2) Adoption
Again use the same diagram as before as you consider this option:
What are the circumstances in you considering adoption, you make like to print off the information on adoption on the previous ‘options’ page and have that by you as you work through the thought of adoption in the same way as for parenting.
What are the circumstances telling your mind, how does that impact on your emotions.
(3) Abortion
As you consider this option use the diagram:
When you consider the option of abortion, how do the circumstances affect you mind, and how does that in turn affect your emotions.
Go to the thinking it though page for further help in thinking through your decision
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