Many people look forward to having children but deciding to keep a baby that wasn’t planned for is a responsibility many of us may feel unprepared for. It can seem even more difficult if there are other concerns such as finances, housing, health, college or a career. Practical help is available that may ease some of your concerns and so make the choice of parenting available.
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Financial Help
If you are on a low income, there are benefits to help mothers with children. You can find out more by contacting your local Benefits Agency, an advice centre (such as CAB), or your local pregnancy counselling centre, where clearly explained leaflets may be available.
Housing
Financial help is available for those on a low income who pay rent. Housing advice, including advice about possible homelessness, can be obtained from your local council. You can make an appointment to talk to someone about your situation and be accompanied by a counsellor from your local pregnancy counselling centre if you wish.
Health Care
Every expectant mother is entitled to free health care before and after the birth. Midwives, doctors and health visitors can help you with the pregnancy, birth and labour, as well as with caring for your baby later. If you work, you are entitled to time off for antenatal appointments. You’ll be given the opportunity to attend parent craft classes too. Some are especially for teenagers.
Child Care
Single parents who wish to get back into work having been on benefits can receive help with childcare costs, and looking for a job. The Social Services Dept. can help direct you to local childcare facilities.
Your Life
Many colleges allow you to defer your course until you are able to resume your studies. Childcare facilities may be available. If you are working, you may be entitled to maternity leave and pay. There are new grants available to pay for childcare while you continue your education
Clothing
Baby clothes and equipment can be very expensive. Your local pregnancy counselling centre may be able to offer you some second hand equipment and clothes in good condition. Ask for further information about what’s available.
Support
We all need people to support us through difficult times. You may have a supportive partner or family, but, if you don’t, a supporter from the local pregnancy counselling centre can visit you, and provide support for as long as you wish.
Final Thoughts
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Becoming a parent isn’t just about practical considerations – there are also emotional ones. It’s about a baby to care for and nurture, how you feel deep down about being a mother. It may be important for you to look past the circumstantial problems and think more carefully about what being a mother means for you. |
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